Life’s Ideal Path
Life is not necessarily fair, and neither is it easy.
Man has to toil for what he needs, as well as whatever he wants. He has to plan, work, and put-up effort for years, and have hope above all, that his dream is not in vain. The struggle to face life stays, therefore, that the path to success is not easy, has no one leveled it out for nobody, and without effort, perseverance and self-belief, many give up and settle for the satisfaction of fulfilling their present needs, the comfort of a salaried job, and retirement, upon which they live in abject poverty, and in dying, say their lived as they could, but did they?
I have had a train of thought, so you might call it, and have been imagining myself in such respects, as pertains to life, and the ideal that we are supposed to live for.
I have heard, and I suppose it is true, that since the Church seeks to have celibate men lead in its worship services, as well as celibate women, impotence, and inability to diminish sexuality is not the qualification, but that one needs to be very strong in a sexual context. That is as much as I have heard, and am driven to make conclusions by myself.
My conclusions are thus; when one decides to join a church congregation and to serve, their first opponent is themselves. Yes, you need to defeat yourself first, and so you will eventually defeat other challenges that come your way. Life has many challenges, and I suppose that many of them demand that we defeat ourselves first, so that we can be an example to others.
The challenge to defeat ourselves first is not limited to the clergy, but also to ourselves too. As a married man, I can testify that we are tempted as much as the clergy, if not the more. You see, immediately after you are married, you are a responsible adult to the community. Young women look at you as an experienced man in matters of sex and taking control, and they take the pleasure of knowing that their relations with you are hideous and, in most cases, have no strings attached. They also have another plug, they can use blackmail to make you give them what they want. Most of us in marriage are working, we get money, in whichever ways we have to have money, for money is the fuel that will keep the marriage astern. Our concubines know that. They are well aware that as a man you must be making savings for your family. They can gauge the lifestyle you bestow to your family, and they will demand the same for themselves too. Take me on a vacation to Lamu, I know you took your wife there, and we must travel by air.
I can’t afford it as of now, you know, let us go to Naivasha.
Naivasha my foot, if you won’t, I will tell her.
Shh, allow me to plan myself then. And so the concubine has her strings around the married man more than the wife, and she knows when to time her pulls.
For the married woman, you would think she is at peace, that she is not tempted. One of the most volatile elements of womanly is her womb. Given that sex plants a seed in her, and the seed becomes a responsibility in the manner of pregnancy. I have heard women testify that pregnancy is more threatening than HIV. But when you are in a marriage, when a pregnancy is our child, and when the community is congratulating you on your expected baby, you might be a bit lost on the weight you tie to sex. You might indulge more, and have little fear, as there is a permanent man in your life, and pregnancy is not a disgrace.
Well, that is that about temptations and the need to overcome them, but I began this piece with life, and I need to finish it on the same tone.
I have once been congratulated, but the sarcasm was so plain and vain, that I felt insulted.
I was about but told;
Here comes Benjamin, the man who killed a dead lion.
Now, that is a hero’s proclamation, right, but for you to be a hero, you need to be the cause of the lion’s death, and not claim you have killed it whereas it is already dead.
How would one claim that there have been able to succeed if they experienced no difficulties on the way? How sweet would be the victory? I gather not sweet. The same attributes are also relevant to even Christian living. How can one claim to have strong valor in defeating sin, if they were not but themselves tempted?
Well, I digress, for my train of thought is largely resonant with life.
Man is born, bred and in circumstances, they have to meet is the need to overcome the challenges and earn a living. This in itself is a necessity. After one has been able to achieve a living and has time to spare (as well as other resources), they can be well placed to tackle other challenges, oversee the development of the community and the push for better living standards, as well as use their resources to support the community. This vocality stands out as a pillar to the community, and thus they push and recommend him for higher ranks in the community leadership.
In another contextual evaluation of a self-identity, a man recognizes the challenges that stand against them. He fights to win the battle of bread and water, then he fights the more, and he finds now that he has wine and milk, the fight continues, and he learns that he can help others have bread and water. To this man, these difficulties are not adversity, he anticipates them, because winning them is like a game, yes, a game.
If you are unable to read a whole lot of this narration, the summary is, that life is a game, and every difficulty level has better perks, and you should enjoy breaking out of a level and stepping up higher on the ladder, there the difficulties will be more, but the aspect of living is that you will fight to stay, and if you dominate the level, then life becomes a bore again, and you fight for the other level, bigger challenges? The better to sharpen your skills. Then life is not altogether boring but worth to be lived, growing in a pace-by-pace basis.
